Tag Archives: communication

Three tips for learning a foreign language

For most of my life I was woefully monolingual. I struggled through trips to Europe with a lot of pointing and “Parlez-vous Anglais?” My German was inept but earnest, like a kindergartner’s finger-painting stuck to the family fridge. How things have now changed! Around 2013 I learnt about Duolingo and from October of that year […]

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A note that reads "hey twit, ever notice how this space fits 2 small cars?? or just one stupid small car that parks inconsiderately"

Assertion: Safely meeting needs

It is hard to assert: to stand up for yourself without encroaching on somebody else’s territory. Even when you assert well, you may encounter defensiveness and hostility. Is it worth it? Well, yes it is. Assertion allows you to get your needs met, while avoiding the pitfalls of submissiveness (in which your needs are neglected) or aggressiveness […]

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Someone says "1+1" the other reflects "2". They love each other.

Reflective Listening: the path to understanding

Listening is a search to find the treasure of the true person, as revealed verbally and nonverbally. (John Powell) In my last post here, I wrote about roadblocks to communication. When listening, “advising” or “reassuring” can undermine good communication and disservice the listener. Having described what not to do, I’ll now draw again upon Bolton’s People […]

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a cartoon of a car being blocked by hurdles reading "advising" and "reassuring"

Two roadblocks to communication: advising and reassuring

People Skills is a book by Robert Bolton in which he meticulously details different tools, attitudes and frameworks to get better at communication. The first chapter of the book deals with ‘roadblocks’ to communication [1]: particular behaviours that endanger understanding. Some of these, like ‘criticising’ and ‘ordering’ are pretty obvious. Some are less so, and […]

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GREENS FAIL TO WIN SECOND SENATE SEAT

Chris Mitchell Perth, April 6: With 65.0% of the vote counted, the Greens have failed to win a second senate seat in the critical WA Senate re-election. Despite an all-out campaign and the second highest level of campaign expenditure, the Greens barely broke quota, garnering a mere 16.2% of the primary vote. This represents a […]

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a graph showing how household income affects both views on refugee seekers and whether people care at all

Opened borders, closed minds

It alarms me how rapidly people who want to be on the side of open-mindedness and tolerance will close their mind to, and judge, people who have different, less tolerant views. People who want harsher treatment of asylum seekers are ‘rednecks’, are racist, are, essentially, bad people. Someone opposed to ending marriage discrimination is homophobic […]

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What’s “love” got to do with it?

On May 6, 2010, Savage Love featured a letter from “Transitions and Crossroads.” The writer asked about her prospects with a guy who wanted to reevaluate the relationship. “I can’t say that I’m sure I’m in love with him”, she wrote, “but I do know that we thoroughly enjoy each other’s company and miss each […]

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“In the Tiger’s Mouth”, Katrina Shields: Activism, Self-Awareness, Self Care

Katrina Shield’s In The Tiger’s mouth is a book I had been waiting for an opportunity to read. That opportunity came one Friday when I lunched with Holly Hammond, facilitator and director of Plan to Win (and the recently-launched blog ‘Plan to Thrive’). Appropriately, she had two copies and was able to lend (understandably, she […]

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“The 5 Love Languages”, Gary Chapman: Making Love Felt

The 5 Love Languages: The Secret to Love that Lasts is a book by Gary Chapman with an invaluable message: that humans communicate love using five distinct “languages”. We each have a different primary love language, and we feel most loved when love is expressed to us in that language. Conversely, relationships falter not necessarily […]

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“Language Intelligence”, Joe Romm: Rhetoric

Language Intelligence is the latest book by climate blogger Joe Romm. It is a guide to rhetoric, “the art of persuasion through the systematic use of the figures of speech.” To be more precise, it is a powerfully written and invaluable guide to rhetoric. Whether you cross swords on Q&A with Nick Minchin, speak to […]

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